I knew that becoming a mom was going to change my life. Some people would comment and say – “Get ready to give up your freedom.â€, but is it really true that you are no longer in control of your time when you become  a mom and there is no time for being the sexy woman your husband fell in love with?
I didn’t know what a Date Night meant until the first few months with my first child. There wasn’t a reason for date night because every weekend was a date night. Now things were different, we had to plan a date night because we had to find a babysitter for the 2 hours we wanted to have dinner alone as a couple. My whole life became my daughter, and I was starting to forget to be a woman.
It didn’t occur to me to ever leave my daughter with anyone overnight, even my own mother; even less to leave her a whole week. Then as she got a little older, about 1 1/2 years old, a friend suggested I should consider taking a week vacation just my husband and I to recharge and be a couple again. I was hesitant about the idea and after discussing it with my husband I became even more hesitant. He told me – “My parents never left me anywhere when they went on trips. We are a family, and now we are parents. Our daughter is a part of our lives, we just make her part of the trips.†That made me feel even more guilty of the idea of leaving her with my parents or his parents for any time span.
The idea has been lingering in my mind ever since I heard of two friends of mine doing the Week vacations without their child. Both couples found it hard at first but then don’t regret doing it. One of my friends said, “It was nice being able to have a nice expensive suite. It was like a second honeymoon. And our son didn’t even miss us.â€
I know I am a mother, but can I also be a wife and relive our days as a couple without feeling guilty about leaving the kids behind?